Love is a Choice! This concept is constantly being hammered into my brain. Everything I have read points to this one statement.
Dear Lord, I hear you and I got the message!
“Love doesn’t erase the past, but it makes the future different. When we choose active expressions of love in the primary love language of our spouse, we create an emotional climate where we can deal with our past conflicts and failures” – from The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman.
He goes on to say that meeting your spouse’s need for love is a choice you make each day. If you know their primary love language and choose to speak it, then their deepest emotional needs will be met and they will feel secure in your love and vice versa.
I started reading “The 5 Love Languages” a while ago, but never finished. Let’s be honest, I didn’t get past the first page. But I picked it up again recently and what I have read has been very enlightening. My husband and I took the quiz three years ago, but never put the concepts into to action. Fast forward to now and I’m pretty sure that his primary love language has changed over the years. Reading this book has made me very intentional about how I speak my husband’s love language. I have been putting Mr. Chapman’s advice to use and I see changes in the dynamic of our relationship. Of course, other things have been happening that also come into play such as the addition of positive habits to our daily routine (see my last post).
Mr. Chapman also states, “Love is not the answer to everything, but it creates a climate of security in which we can seek answers to those things that bother us. In the security of love, a couple can discuss differences without condemnation. Conflicts can be resolved. Two people who are different can learn to live together in harmony. We discover how to bring out the best in each other. Those are the rewards of love.”
Again…Love is a Choice. Choose Love. ♥
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