marriage

Don’t Focus on the Bad. Look for the Good.

Back in May, I started making a list of all the things my husband does that I am appreciative for.  It’s taking some time, but I am now at 10 items.

Why only 10?  Because it is hard to see through my hurt and pain all the little things he has done for me that either made my day go smoother, or just because he wanted to do something nice.  I had to really think back to when we started dating, to when he moved in with me, to when we moved to our house, to when we got married, to our normal routines.  I had to focus on the things he had been doing since May when I started the list.  And even then, it took conversations with friends to remember some of the little things that go unnoticed.

If your marriage has hit on rough times, I encourage you to start looking for the good in your relationship and not focus on the bad.  If you focus on the good, then you might find that the good far outweighs the bad and you might have a marriage worth saving.  You can start by thinking of the things you appreciate about your spouse.  You can also think about the Top 10 moments you experienced as a couple.  Or you can make the choice to love your spouse even though you face adversity.

I know it isn’t easy and some things are just so egregious or appears so, but you hold the keys to your relationship.  It is up to you to do all that you can until you can’t do anything more.  Don’t let society’s pressures or “rules” dictate how you deal with your relationship. Society’s opinions don’t matter.

Still Choosing to Love.  ♥

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