Why do I choose to stay?
This is a thought that has been brewing in my mind for the last few days. I started this blog as a way to express some of the frustrations that I experience in my marriage, as well as the lessons I am learning. There have been times when I seriously considered a separation or a divorce. But after calming down and thinking things through, I always ended up with a renewed drive to keep fighting for my marriage.
Many would ask why. Some have asked why. Some have even suggested that I leave and not subject myself to any more hurt.
But my reason for staying is simple.
I chose to stay for all that he has done right. Yes we are currently experiencing a very rough patch. So rough that many would have immediately filed that paperwork without a second thought. But sometimes you have to weigh the good against the bad.
I chose to stay because of the influence and encouragement of my mentors: both elders and contemporaries.
I chose to stay because I know his mistakes does not have to mean the end. They could mean the beginning of something rock solid.
I chose to stay because I still have a lot of fight left in me.
I chose to stay because of the vows I took.
I chose to stay because of love.